Comments on: Handling Loss

By: Daryl Eriksen

Daryl Eriksen — Sat, 04 Dec 2010 16:04:35 +0000

I lost my job at the end of June this year. I had told my wife a week before that there was some talk around the office and laid out some hypotheticals. I knew that on Tue 6/29 we were having an office meeting of undisclosed nature. Well, that was the day they abruptly closed the office. I called and said I was coming home with all of my stuff. Looking back, I guess I was kind of in shock. She was wonderful, very supportive, very loving and understanding. She helped me in my hurt, maintained the needed sense of normalcy that I now know was vital. We quickly changed our attitude about our lives (including our then 2-year-olds), saying, ‘this is our life now.’ I began my job search (which is still ongoing) and she by God’s grace was able to get extra hours at her part-time job. You figure out things about your spouse that you didn’t even know were there over the course of a marriage, things that grow your love for them all the more. This was her moment to shine and she did. And still is. I love you Maureen!

By: Dawn

Dawn — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 15:08:50 +0000

My husband has been with me through the death of each of my parents. My father early in our marriage and my mother a few years ago. He has always been supportive, giving me space if I needed it or a shoulder if I needed it. He is my best friend and would listen if I was missing one of them or just let me cry. I hope I can return his love and support when he experiences this kind of loss. I will say a loss that was difficult for our marriage was the loss of our son. I think we tried to be there for each other, but it is more difficult when you both are fully consumed with the grief. We may not have done it perfectly and still struggle with it somedays, but it has been ten years now and we are 25 years of marriage strong.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 14:15:04 +0000

When my mom passed away unexpectedly a half a country away I was blown away with how awesome and supportive my husband was. I have to fly out almost immediatly for 6 days and we had a 2 and 3 year old boys. He typically works 80 hours per week for the company he owns and somehow managed to cut it down to 50 so he could be with the boys more while I was away. In addition, he would text me cute pics of the kids which was really uplifting and gave me a smile during such a sad time. He also sat on the phone for hours on end with me sometimes just listening to me cry. To this day when I am sad and missing my mom he simply gives me the greatest hug which brings so much relief.