Towards the end of any year, managers and supervisors everywhere will pull out their clipboards and start conducting year-end performance reviews.

That’s right, it’s time again to discuss quality control, problem solving, interpersonal skills, and your attitude on the job. As an added bonus (not necessarily the kind you can spend) you’ll also get to hear about punctuality, results, organization, and motivation—all rated on a cheerful scale of 1 to 5.

It’s rare to meet the person who looks forward to a year-end review. Unless a pay raise is guaranteed afterward, an evaluation isn’t the kind of experience most people enjoy. No matter how good the year has been, there’s always something negative that can be said, some behavior that can be changed, some suggestion that can be made. It’s almost discouraging just thinking about it.

Still, the purpose behind this kind of feedback is good, and when done well, a review can really perk things up. It lets us look backward to figure out what went right and what could’ve been better. It helps us fine-tune what’s working, find ways to improve problem areas, and get rid of kinks in the system.

That’s why I’m suggesting an extra year-end review every year—right here and now, how about some honest evaluation of your home life? It’s a chance to fine-tune, improve, and de-kink some things, and it’s simple. Family, on a scale of 1 to 5.

Here’s how this works: I’ll provide the questions, and it’s up to you to find the answers. Ask yourself, or if you’re really brave, ask your spouse, your child, your parent, or your sibling:

On a scale of 1 to 5, how’s my knowledge of home? Am I aware of what’s important? Am I keeping tabs on the people who are closest to me? Do I know what’s going on in their lives? Have I checked in lately? Have I asked how they’re doing? Have I remembered important dates, times, events, and details? Have I stopped to notice things, to watch, to listen?

On a scale of 1 to 5, how’s my behavior at home? Do I show up when I’m needed? Do I keep my promises? Do I speak with words that are loving and kind? Do I speak well of others? Are my actions unselfish? Am I patient when people are catching up or catching on? Do I wait my turn? Do I have time for family members? Do I put relationships first?

On a scale of 1 to 5, how’s my interaction at home? Am I encouraging to the people in my family? Do I solve conflicts in healthy ways? Have I made family fun? Am I respectful of others’ desires? Do I find ways to help out around the house? Do I want what’s best for the people in my life? Have I apologized when I’ve been wrong? Have I forgiven hurts caused by others?

On a scale of 1 to 5, how’s my progress at home? Do I have goals for my family life? Am I working to get better in these relationships? Are my scores for this year higher than they would have been last year? Can my family see a difference in my behavior? Are questions like these important to me? Are they important enough to make me adapt and change? And will my review be even better at the end of next year?

Towards the end of any year, managers and supervisors everywhere will pull out their clipboards and start conducting year-end performance reviews.

That’s right, it’s time again to discuss quality control, problem solving, interpersonal skills, and your attitude on the job. As an added bonus (not necessarily the kind you can spend) you’ll also get to hear about punctuality, results, organization, and motivation—all rated on a cheerful scale of 1 to 5.

It’s rare to meet the person who looks forward to a year-end review. Unless a pay raise is guaranteed afterward, an evaluation isn’t the kind of experience most people enjoy. No matter how good the year has been, there’s always something negative that can be said, some behavior that can be changed, some suggestion that can be made. It’s almost discouraging just thinking about it.

Still, the purpose behind this kind of feedback is good, and when done well, a review can really perk things up. It lets us look backward to figure out what went right and what could’ve been better. It helps us fine-tune what’s working, find ways to improve problem areas, and get rid of kinks in the system.

That’s why I’m suggesting an extra year-end review every year—right here and now, how about some honest evaluation of your home life? It’s a chance to fine-tune, improve, and de-kink some things, and it’s simple. Family, on a scale of 1 to 5.

Here’s how this works: I’ll provide the questions, and it’s up to you to find the answers. Ask yourself, or if you’re really brave, ask your spouse, your child, your parent, or your sibling:

On a scale of 1 to 5, how’s my knowledge of home? Am I aware of what’s important? Am I keeping tabs on the people who are closest to me? Do I know what’s going on in their lives? Have I checked in lately? Have I asked how they’re doing? Have I remembered important dates, times, events, and details? Have I stopped to notice things, to watch, to listen?

On a scale of 1 to 5, how’s my behavior at home? Do I show up when I’m needed? Do I keep my promises? Do I speak with words that are loving and kind? Do I speak well of others? Are my actions unselfish? Am I patient when people are catching up or catching on? Do I wait my turn? Do I have time for family members? Do I put relationships first?

On a scale of 1 to 5, how’s my interaction at home? Am I encouraging to the people in my family? Do I solve conflicts in healthy ways? Have I made family fun? Am I respectful of others’ desires? Do I find ways to help out around the house? Do I want what’s best for the people in my life? Have I apologized when I’ve been wrong? Have I forgiven hurts caused by others?

On a scale of 1 to 5, how’s my progress at home? Do I have goals for my family life? Am I working to get better in these relationships? Are my scores for this year higher than they would have been last year? Can my family see a difference in my behavior? Are questions like these important to me? Are they important enough to make me adapt and change? And will my review be even better at the end of next year?