Guilt Trips Kill Fun
by Dr. Peter Newhouse • 1 Comment
Sometimes we use guilt to get what we want or we use it to motivate people to accomplish our end goals and desires. We say things like, “It would be nice if we could go to the beach more often, but we can’t because we are too busy with your parents and family” or “We would have more money if we didn’t have to pay off your school loans.” These comments only tear down and create negativity in the other person. Often times the person does what we guilt them to do, but using guilt creates hurt, anger,
and dislike of the person or the activity.
Prescription: Examine your motives carefully and see if you are using guilt as a means to do what you want to do without considering other people’s feelings.
I have found that when someone tries to give me a guilt trip, they themselves are hiding from the truth and the person receiving is the one who truly gets hurt the worst in the situation. A person who feels that they have to use guilt on another in my mind is a very small person in the eyes of God, twisting things to make someone look like something they are not is evil and degrading to those around them. A person in the eyes of God is a beautiful person, I pity the person who treats another human worse than they would treat themselves, I do understand the sinful nature of mankind though but they will have to answer to a higher power.