Sometimes we use guilt to get what we want or we use it to motivate people to accomplish our end goals and desires. We say things like, “It would be nice if we could go to the beach more often, but we can’t because we are too busy with your parents and family” or “We would have more money if we didn’t have to pay off your school loans.” These comments only tear down and create negativity in the other person. Often times the person does what we guilt them to do, but using guilt creates hurt, anger,
and dislike of the person or the activity.
Prescription: Examine your motives carefully and see if you are using guilt as a means to do what you want to do without considering other people’s feelings.