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Say "I Love You" With Your Actions
Take out the trash. Change the light bulb. Fix a hole in the wall. Put the lid down. Pick up your newspapers. Take care of your dirty clothes. Wipe your feet. Wash the dishes. Do all of this without being asked.
Do you wait to be asked to help around the house?
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By - Chuck from Fort Gratiot, MI on 09/11/2008
I always help out with the dishes and the laundry. We both work and it wouldn't be fair to one another.
By - Jarrod from Bloomington, IL on 09/11/2008
I try to help keep up on the house work and even try and help my wife, Elizabeth, with other chores like doing the dishes or laundry. I don't mind doing those things. I know she appreciates it and I'm learning that she 'hears' I Love You when I do those things. I also enjoy working on the house; painting, remodeling, etc. Mowing the yard actually helps me relax...depending on the temperature outside. haha. There are times when she does ask me to do something like installing her garbage disposal that's been on the back-burner for sometime. But I have a goal to get that special project done for her. In reading Every Man's Marraige I'm learning that our house is a reflection of her essence...our house is her nest and where she desires to feel comfortable, secure, and appreciated. I'm doing my best to get it to that point. She sees it too. Men, we need to honor our wives by being their HELP mates. We're in this together.
By - kim from dorr on 09/10/2008
I know that my husband Loves me with all of his heart, by just doing the little things around the house, like after dinner he tells me to sit down and relax while he puts the dishes in the dishwasher, and the leftovers away. He takes out the trash, he puts the little one to bed. Even after a long day at work he trys his best to help me around the house. I know that sounds silly that he does all of this and more, BUT I know this one way he shows me that he LOVES me. My Husband is awesome!!! THANKS HONEY !!!!!
By - Katherine from Holland, MI on 09/10/2008
Funny this arrived in my email today! Yesterday I was doing some housework. A very large spider crawled out of my Husbands boots that he placed on the steps. I told him about it and explained if we were to vacuum those more often this wouldn't happen. I probably should not have said "I wonder why I am the only person in the house that notices vacuuming needs to be done". It was insensitive of me I'll admit. But why is it sometimes being the only woman around the house for 28 years I am the only person that notices when things need to get done?? He took my question as an accusation, which I really had not purposely intended. How do I convey messages without coming across as offensive? I did apologize but he still seemed upset by my question.
By - Kelly from Sc on 09/10/2008
I don't know what it is about men that brings them to "why didn't you ask?" or what it is about women who believe that we shouldn't have to ask. I've learned through 15 years that if I don't want confusion I need to clearly state my request. He is ALWAYS happy to help, and I have to get over wishing he could read my mind!
By - Tim from Bloomington, IL on 09/10/2008
I do the best I can to help out around the house such as cooking dinner, helping my kids with homework, caring for our two dogs and my daughter's fish, putting away as well as washing laundry, vacuuming and dusting, etc. My spouse typically handles most of the sanitation needs around the house and doing dishes. We both do the best we can to help each other out when needed. I sometimes do not do as much as I could due to work or outside projects at home but am reminded by my spouse when necessary.
By - Man from FL on 09/10/2008
Not too many years ago, husbands did the manual labor of mowing the yard, painting the house, trimming the hedges, and fixing things when they broke. Women did the manual labor of washing dishes by hand, cleaning the house, washing the clothes by hand, and cooking from scratch. I look around at married couples and here is what I see. I see husbands doing the manual labor of mowing the grass, trimming the bushes, painting the house, washing the car, fixing things when they break. I see wives cleaning the house, putting the dishes in the dish washer, putting the clothes in the clothes washer, and popping frozen dinners in the microwave. I think that men should help out, but any fair evaluation can see that the traditional wife chores have become automated and much easier, while the husband's chores are pretty much the same level of effort. That is as it should be. Men are called to provide for their families and that means making their wife's job easier by providing these automated solutions. What is disturbing is the current trend of wives demanding that their husbands do half of the wife's chores in additional to ALL of the husband chores. A really good husband will concede most of the time, but don't expect the bathroom to sparkle or the whites to be white.
By - Karen from Zeeland, MI on 09/10/2008
Kevin is wonderful at helping around the house. There really isn't much he won't do except cleaning the bathrooms (I'm still working on that though). Recently he has really been helping a lot with kitchen duty as I began a new job schedule. It has made things a lot easier for me not having to come home to a messy kitchen! I can tell I feel much happier when things are in order and that makes family life better all around!
By - Rick from Alabama on 09/10/2008
I am very happy to help around the house with jobs my wife used to do since I have come to realize I'm really helping myself when I help her.
By - Nikki from Chino Valley, AZ on 09/10/2008
Tony does his the housework when he's off and I take over when he's working doing the housework. It's a team effort.
