Marriage At Risk- Looking Outside There are certain patterns that show up in marriages at risk. This week, we’re going to talk about something as destructive as keeping secrets: when spouses look for fulfillment outside their relationship. This ‘fulfillment’ I’m talking about can be a number of things, but usually it shows up as [...]
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Marriage At Risk: Keeping Secrets People often ask me if they should be worried about one issue or another in their marriage. They tell me about a certain problem that is becoming difficult. Then they ask whether this problem could be a serious threat to their relationship? In my work with families I have [...]
The Only Choice Plain and simple, there isn’t much fun in failing. I thought about this the other day after I talked with a guy (we’ll call him “Dave”) about his first marriage. The relationship had failed. Bridges were burned, with hurts and misunderstandings exchanged on both sides. What had started out as love [...]
Straighten It Out Bob’s the kind of guy who you’d think has it all together. He prefers his clothing crisp, his hair clean-cut, his problems solvable, his life in order. This is a man people go to for answers. With 20 plus years of marriage under his belt—it would be fair [...]
Stay Afloat Have you ever been swimming in a big lake and a strong current gets a hold of you and you panic for a moment because you lost sight of the shoreline? Well maybe your marriage is in the middle of a heavy current right now and you’ve lost [...]
Don't Bail I drove through one of those big puddles recently that appear after an extremely heavy rain. As I did, I felt at one point that the road had all but disappeared—like my car was floating along. Consider how this scenario can be like marriage. There may be times [...]
Do Less, Not More You’re hosting a party in your home and you’ve invited Jessica and her husband, Eric, whom you’ve known since college. You hesitated to include them because their behavior is often rude toward each other. You just now heard Jessica refer to Eric as an idiot—loud enough [...]
Breaking Through Recently my wife and I had a disagreement over something that was absolutely silly. It escalated and went on for a day or so where we just seemed to stay sideways with each other. It wasn’t really a yelling match, it was more of a stay-on-your-own turf and [...]
Where Is Your Focus? I have yet to meet the married couple that isn’t, when you get right down to the core of things, Mr. and Mrs. Fix-it. Despite whatever’s going right in their relationship, no doubt pay more attention to what’s damaged, what’s wearing thin, what’s never worked too [...]
Be True To Each Other If you watch any movies or TV sitcoms today or you regularly peruse through media website of any kind, you know that having a traditional marriage and being faithful to your spouse is not quite the “in” thing. It’s not high on the “what’s hot [...]