When it comes to household chores, men are now putting down the remote and picking up a broom. They are putting away stereotypes along with dishes. According to a study conducted in 2010 by the U.S. Bureau of Labor, husbands are racking up nearly the same amount of time completing household chores as their spouse. This is especially true in cases where both spouses are working full time outside the home.
When women first started entering the workforce more frequently, they did so assuming they’d continue with all of their household chores. There were no roadmaps showing men what direction to take in the area of household tasks. But most men have been willing to change and women have spoken up and now, together, couples are forging ahead and taking care of business both at work and home.
That doesn’t mean, however, there won’t be some roadblocks along the way. Couples really need to make a plan for how this happens instead of making assumptions. It should be one of the first things a newly-married couple discusses before patterns are established, not registered for in the china department. That doesn’t mean it’s all going to work out where everybody just does what they like and no more, but there’s no reason one person has to get all the dirty jobs.
Once you’ve established the jobs, then define the standards. Is the definition of cleaning up after dinner just clearing the table or is it also washing and drying pans and loading the dishwasher. Does doing the laundry mean washing and drying the clothes and then leaving them for someone else to fold?
It’s great how couples are working better as a team to accomplish all the tasks in their life, but understand it might get a little untidy at times. Like everything in marriage, you need to communicate openly and unclutter the areas that get muddled so there’s a clear pathway to accomplish your goals.