Don’t Bail

I drove through one of those big puddles recently that appear after an extremely heavy rain. As I did, I felt at one point that the road had all but disappeared—like my car was floating along.

Consider how this scenario can be like marriage. There may be times when you feel like love has disappeared from your relationship. Regardless of how long you’ve been married, you can experience periods when you feel like you are drowning in your problems. In order to stay afloat, you need to think about how to improve the circumstances instead of bailing out. While jumping ship would provide immediate relief from dealing with your problems, in the long run, those unresolved issues would resurface.

Communication is the foundation of any relationship. It’s especially important to keep it going when experiencing difficulties. It may not be easy, but you need to get to the core of your problems by peeling the layers that surround them. There may be a layer of pride that’s preventing you from getting to the truth, along with coverings of guilt, uncertainty, and stubbornness, just to name a few. Once those are identified and peeled away, it will be easier to figure out how to get your love flowing again in the same direction. It might involve connecting through several date nights or learning to enjoy your spouse’s hobby or cheerfully serving instead of being served.

It’s not always simple to address the times in a relationship when feelings of love have disappeared, but if you do, it will probably take less time and effort then bailing out would and certainly more satisfying.


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