Everyone Grows Old
Sometimes people get crusty as they age. You have to be careful to pick your battles when dealing with problems associated with old age and it can sometimes stink. Not everyone grows old the same way but everyone will grow old. It’s part of the package.
As your parents move into those more mature years, you may find that they will need more of your help. You may need to assist them with everything from dealing with physical ailments to taking care of physical labor. Keep in mind that this phase can be emotionally difficult for them as they start to lose some of their independence. Most parents dread the thought that they will ever have to be a burden to their offspring. So as you begin to assist your parents, be empathetic in your approach, gentle in your spirit, and don’t forget to bring your patience to every situation.
I’ve walked this road and have a few tips that might work for you and your loved ones.
The first one is to be available. Try and respond when they need you but set boundaries or agree to hire whatever help is needed.
Secondly, remember that aging is a natural part of life, which means that you will face this too. Remember, too, that your aging journey could look totally different from your parents. Perhaps your diligence in eating right or exercising regularly will mean that you will face fewer health issues.
Lastly, share this experience with your children and teach them about the different roles everyone plays within a family. Let your example of caregiving teach them how you hope to be cared for later on in your life.
Each stage in family life requires a certain amount of patience, understanding, and positivity. When you get frustrated with your parents, try to remember all the times you probably exasperated them while you moved through your own stages of growth.