Getting Readjusted


Let me explain what I mean by the title here: Many of us have been through more of a transition in the past month than we might realize. Sure, it’s just a transition back to our regular schedule, but mid to late December (and probably the first week of January) has a schedule all its own. Seriously, think about it with me.

For many students, school recently started back up. For those of us who work, we may still be getting readjusted to the regular flow of our schedules. Whether we had any days off or not, Christmas and New Year’s work parties combined with the impact the holidays have on shipping schedules and business hours means that the last couple weeks of 2023 were not likely to be the same as our normal day-to-day routine at work, school, or home.

I mention all of this knowing that you’re reading this article a couple of weeks after New Year’s Day because I want to address the feelings that many of us have probably been working through. Even if we’ve been doing the same job or studying at the same school for years and think that our daily tasks should feel like deeply ingrained routines, there’s something about the schedule shake up of the season that leaves many of us feeling a little bit off as we readjust.

If that’s how you’ve been feeling for the past week, I want you to know it’s not just you. We’ve all been through the big emotions of the holidays and are now finding ourselves back to normal life, and that can take some navigating. My guess is that parents with kids at home know what I’m talking about on a very deep level! Whether heading back to school provoked excitement or dread for your kids, it almost certainly had them feeling something on a very deep level. My next guess is that those feelings have impacted their behavior. One of your kids may have been very cheerful lately because they’ve been excited about being back to school and seeing all of their friends again. But maybe one of your kids has been really stressed after going back to the class they’re struggling in or the relationship dynamics that are so hard on them, so they are acting out.

Here’s the bottom line: We’re all having to do some readjusting as we settle back into our normal routines. Some of that work is readjusting to good and normal things, and some of it is readjusting to frustrating or draining things.

Knowing all of this, I want to encourage everybody to work to be a little more mindful and nicer right now. Have a little more patience and give a little more grace when you’re in a conversation with your spouse or kids. Give the benefit of the doubt when you’re in a conversation with a friend or co-worker because even though the past month has been filled with lots of good things, transitioning from parties, family gatherings, gift giving, and eating lots of junk food back to our normal routine of work or school is not always a straightforward one. When we take the extra time to remember that others are working through that same readjustment right now, we’ll be kinder and more patient, which will help us all to win more often at home.