Share a Moment

Teens today are speaking a different language than their parents. Much of it was developed through texting and snap-chatting. It’s not really new for teens to use words their parents can’t understand. It’s been around for generations.

Of course, this makes it more difficult for parents to communicate with their children. It’s already hard enough once they become teenagers to keep the words flowing horizontally. It’s mostly vertical, with parents telling teens what to do and them replying by grunting one-word responses. Trying to carry on a conversation with your teen can be challenging, but it can be done.

Don’t spend so much time trying to figure them out or figure out what they’re language means, but just talk to them as a young adult in your own words. You don’t have to wait until there is an hour or two window of opportunity to talk either. Some of the best conversations with your teen might take place within a five to ten minute period. On the way to practice. Waiting in the car to pick up a sibling. In the waiting room at the doctor or dentist’s office. Seize the moments that might not seem idyllic, but ideally may be the only chance you have that day to connect with your child. Prepare by having some specific open-ended questions ready that relate to them.

Talking is an important element of your relationship with your teen, but it’s not the only one. Play a game with him. Go shopping with her. Ask them about their school work. Find a way to reach your teen either by an impromptu chat or finding an activity to share and keep your family winning at home.