Have you ever been swimming in a big lake and a strong current gets a hold of you and you panic for a moment because you lost sight of the shoreline? Well maybe your marriage is in the middle of a heavy current right now and you’ve lost sight of why you love your spouse. Your first thought might be to stop and try to back out of it. I hope not. I hope you feel you’re in too deep to give up now. Working through turbulent times are what actually strengthen a relationship. You might have moments when you wish you had never gotten married, but those thoughts are fleeting and will not endure.
When you’re in the deep waters of life and the issues and problems in your relationship are weighing you down, fight hard not to let the waves overtake you or you’ll find your relationship going under. You’ve got to stand strong and fight to stay afloat and be true to the vows you made on your wedding day. I like what Leo Tolstoy once said, “What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.”
There might be situations in your marriage that cause you to temporarily freak out. My wife and I have days, like I’m sure you do, where it feels like we are constantly swimming against the current, but with a little effort, determination and honest communication, we get past the obstacles that stand in the way of our final destination: a healthy and satisfying marriage where we can win at home.