Step Back

Flip on the television for a half hour and unless you’re watching cartoons, you’re likely to see footage of a war, a natural disaster, a human catastrophe, or the latest celebrity’s fall from grace. Click onto a news website and you’ll see mudslinging all over the headlines while smutty ads surround the page. Tune in to talk radio, and it won’t be difficult to find people griping about the right, the left, the church, the economy, the government, the weather, and the price of everything.

It’s easy to feel hopeless about life. And if our marriage relationship is also teetering on the brink, we might feel like what is the point of continuing in that relationship. Sometimes, even without knowing it, we bring our frustration with the outside world into our home. Into our marriage relationship.

To live in this world is, in many ways, to live aware of what’s wrong with it. It takes stepping back from the pain—not ignoring it or turning a blind eye or living in denial, but a healthy stepping back. It takes looking for what’s good so that ultimately we can find it. The same is true of our marriage. We need to be aware of what may be wrong with it, but then step back and look for what is good and beautiful about it. And be thankful for it.

Every day remind yourself of what you are thankful for in your marriage and in your life. An attitude of gratitude will go a long way in helping you win at home and in your marriage.


Winning At Home encourages people at all ages and stages of
family development to lead Christ-centered homes.